When Kim, an adoptee , read a draft of Searching for Jane, Finding Myself, she asked me to recommend some books and Web sites that would help her work through some of her own adoption issues. I haven’t read every book on the subject, but I’ll start with three of my favorites:
1. The Primal Wound (Understanding the Adopted Child). Written by Nancy NewtonVerriera, a clinical psychologist, in 1991, the book was among the first, if not the first, to provide insight into the experiences of abandonment and loss experienced by adoptees. A must read.
2. May the Circle Be Unbroken (An Intimate Journey Into the Heart of Adoption). Author Lynn C. Franklin is a birthmother who gave up a baby in the 1960′s. Written in 1998, the book paints a realistic picture of the adoption triad.
3. Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew. Written in 1999 by Sherrie Eldridge, this is the book I wish my adoptive parents had read and re-read. It would have helped them understand the issues they inherited when they brought me home.
Helpful links for searching and more:
A web-based, global network where adoptees can safely communicate and encourage one another, and where adoptive and birth parents can share their wisdom and experience with other parents, as well as adoptees, in a loving and constructive way.
The Adoption Database consists of adoptees, birth mothers, birth fathers, birth siblings, other birth family, and adoptive family members in the process of searching for a family member.
Worldwide adoptee and birth parent search database
“The Leader In Adoption Searches Since 1980″ Free adoption search registry and adoption search information
Reunion Registries and many other links pertaining to adoption
Site has links to over 1 million adoption web pages including articles, news forums & chats, links to professionals
AdoptionOpen.com is an informational adoption web site for people seeking a basic knowledge of domestic open adoption.
A list of genealogy sites on the internet w/ many links for adoptees and those who are searching
Founded in 1975, a mutual consent reunion registry for persons desiring a reunion with next-of-kin.
The central online adoption registry with thousands of people registering every month. Free registration.
Bringing families and agencies together
Links to many adoption sites